Supermom and the Brighter Tomorrow

[JennyF]

Well I said this was going to be an intense week. I'll try to sum this up quickly...
I met with a real estate agent who appraised the house about 20 - 30,000 cheaper than what H thought (it is closer to what I thought it would be).
This generally means that we won't have any equity once the mortgage penalty and commissions are paid.

I told H this and he just shrugged and asked if I told her to list it. I said NO. I told him we still don't have the financials done that I told him had to be done in order to proceed. Duh.
So as he's packing up S, I asked him if he spoke to the mediator. He said yes and it doesn't matter because he's not doing it. He said we're going to court and trial and he doesn't care how much it costs. I asked him if he told his L about what I proposed to him and he said yes. I can't figure out why his L isn't jumping on this??
He is being a real A$$ to me and I said, is this how it's going to be? Are you just going to keep being a prick to me? He said...yep. I'm mad at you. I said, because I won't give you what you want? Because I don't agree it's in our children's best interest? I said I'm mad at you for leaving me at 8 months pregnant but I'm still trying to be amicable. I said but you're just going to continue to be mean and rude to me. He said yes. He said he tried the nice way, I said...you did? He said yes, that I don't see anything of what he's done. I said you don't see what I've done either...he said, and I quote..."F#@K YOU" and he walked out the door.
He dropped something and when I went to give it to him I just looked at him and said...who the hell are you? and I walked back in the house.

WTF??? I don't get it. I told my L and she said that he may be trying to bully me into changing my mind.
I'm at a complete loss as to how someone can do what he has done to me and be this angry at me. His perception of himself disgustingly skewed.
I don't want to go to court. I think I've been more than generous with my compromise but in my heart I know what he wants is NOT what is best for the kids especially for the baby. So in my own good conscience I can't allow it. I've tried to come to some compromise but he just won't budge. So it's going to have to go to court.
Man this sucks.
J~