Nik B, and Oldtimer, I have a loose definition of Piecing that I think is realistic. What Oldtimer is referring to regarding a stated commitment from both parties is further along in the Piecing process, and may deserve another name. I think it's too strict a standard for entry into this forum.
I think Piecing can occur if you have one committed partner (as with Nik), and an ambivalent partner. As long as the couple is living under the same roof, and has some connection in the R, than I think Piecing is occurring.
It seems like a typical scenario we have here on this forum is a LBS who has gotten stronger and healthier, and a WAS who has returned but is just beginning to wrestle with their issues. They have a connection to the M, but maintain some distance as they struggle with depression and anxiety. They are not yet at a point where they can commit to the M--they don't have the strength.
It would no longer be Piecing if one of the partners was indifferent about the M. Wavering commitment and ambivalence is part of the process, and still constitutes Piecing IMO.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
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