Originally Posted By: L21959
Okay...

So far today, no checking H's messages, and no replaying gutwrenching messages currently on there...

A small step forward for me!

Still would love some advice on books...

L


Good for you! I agree you should try not to do that. I know the OW in my sitch probably says things like that to my H, but I couldn't stand to actually hear that!!! It seems like the snooping is just hurting you at this point. \:\( I think it is better to focus more on yourself and your kids; will pay off for you and be less painful also!!! \:\)

Others (and I) have noticed that my H seems depressed now that we've separated and I've noticed others posting on the boards that their Hs or Ws seem depressed while they are having the affair. Sue was just suggesting that this is because H is realizing that the problems are his and not me and the kids. I also wonder if it is the guilt kicking in maybe or like in your sitch your H is having a moment of reality where he is temp. not in his fantasy/fog thinking life with OW will be perfect (and of course it won't!!!). Karen

I just ordered 6 or 7 books about affairs and that last week and they should be in any day. I will prob. read them in the next month and will share with you if any are really good!!! Maybe somebody else will post here who has already read them. Of course I've read Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy and those are my favorites so far!!! \:\)

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