Hey OT, Sorry if I came on to strong. I do agree that working on a marriage takes two. Believe me I have been holding things together by myself also for a long time. In fact I think NikB is allot farther along than I am. But...... in Piecing somebody needs to make the first move. I think I am at a place now that things are "comfortable" In fact a little too comfortable. I need to be careful also. There has not been any R talk with my W for a while but I agreed to it. I agreed that we need to concentrate on her getting a job. ME if I was the one without the job I could put it aside until the R was worked out one way or another. BUT W puts the lack of a job as a self image issue. SO I am respecting her wishes and acknowledging the fact that that means allot to her. But what I think you might have been saying is so true. Like I said I am getting too comfortable with the lack of tensions around the house. What I need to do is to continue to GAL and keep a PMA. Keep it up until we have an R talk and I have a commitment. Even after the word commitment is used between us. WE STILL need to gal. Other wise we fall right back in to the same slump. Yes NikB can post where ever she wants but I see her coming here as a positive outlook on her part. Like you said she can't assume and I am sure she knows it that things are ok without a decent R talk...
Take care OT and sorry if I did not come off right. You are a wise person.
Husband
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
