My concern is exactly what I said — that she is getting ahead of her H. How exactly does anyone know whether Nikki's H is still mentally separated or not? They are certainly not at a point where they are openly communicating about an M that they both want to save and make a great R.
IMHO, too many people try to work piecing one-sided. The M is held together in a shaky way for a couple of years, and then falls apart. You can work on trying to be an attractive partner by yourself. You can try to keep the door open to reconcilliation by yourself. But an M is a relationship between two people.
Nikki has been holding things together too long by herself. Her re-entry back into her M will be much better with a partner by her side, one that she KNOWS is by her side.
Certainly, though, I don't think that sitting around thinking things suck is really going to get anyone anywhere. But, that is easily avoidable by owning one's choices and one's happiness.
