I know that there is much talk around here about standing or not standing. I do not think that in the old days we did anything different, just didn't have names for it as much. We knew when we were done and we knew when we were still working on our M.
I do know that 7+ years later, the very most important thing to do is to take care of you. GAL is not just about having fun, but taking care of yourself so that the panic at being alone starts to subside.
The reality is that whether or not you choose to stand, in my opinion really only means you aren't getting into another relationship since the WAW (and the MLC'ers sure do their share of walking) are not really part of the standing. My point being that you can wait for your spouse to come back, but NEVER assume they will and still pretend they won't.
The DB principles used to state that showing strength and the ability to take care of oneself could be very attractive to the WAW.
With that said, my X is / was in MLC. He also is a WAW and I would never be able to tell if he looked back or not. My girls say that he has regrets, but they're guessing. He seems to be coming to his senses a little, but only with respect to the girls. And, even that is miniscule at best, since he has become a totally different person.
IMHO, there is also the factor of those that are just plain too stubborn to admit that they shouldn't have left.
All theories and the reality is that I'm on my own and very thankful that I'm not following his every move, nor worrying about any of his OW's and what they are doing.
I will state again that I was a very slow learner and I hope to pass on some of this, to keep people from going thru some of what I did... it's that old thing - what if I knew what I knew now? I do know that my X paid more attention to me when I wasn't paying attention to him....
