You asked me what the difference was, and this is only from my perspective. Once a long time ago I was a WAH.
No need to go into details, but I will say that if my wife had DBed, or had gotten the book, I might not be a WAH, depending on when she did it, and if it was honest.
To me, when I finally left, I was done, our marriage was dead, I no longer believed her about the changes she promised, since so many fell through. Oh I wasn't golden either, we both made huge mistakes. In the end though, I became a WAH and never looked back.
To me that is a standard WAH. You reach a point where you are done, and that is after you feel that you tried, your best and the other person has just continually let you down, and the marriage.
A MLC WAH/WAW, to me, doesn't know what they want. They want to find themselves but don't want to let you go, they are a ball of confusion. They will contact the LBS, even if it is just to yell and vent and spew, because really...the LBS must be the reason their life sucks.
This is just my opinions from being a WAH and living through my W's MLC.
I still believe that DBing can save a marriage, it can give you a chance to do it.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
