Sue, I'll shake my finger at Karen, too! Don't blame yourself -- you can't think about the "would of's", "could of's", "should of's", "what if's." That will just drive you nuts, and is fruitless because you really don't know what would have/could have/should have been!
FEEL BETTER SUE! Homemade chicken soup, my dear, it's better than "good for the soul" when you're this sick!