Karen- I seem to hear a little bit of blaming going on in your post above. You say.....if I'd done this or if I hadn't pushed him to do that.... Don't you dare blame yourself for this. I won't allow you to on my thread!! AGAIN, no matter how bad things are, he still had no right to start an A while still married to you. I'm just saying that even if you would have done things differently, there's no telling what the outcome would have been.
SueS
Thanks, Sue! You are right of course! But I do think this whole sad experience has helped me to grow & been a good learning experience for me. I have learned about myself more & hopefully how to be a better person, more empathetic, less annoying hopefully. I do think it is good that I am becoming more independent, etc. I know that it's not good though to wallow in the blame or guilt, so am just trying to work on myself for today and the future and try not to blame myself so much (esp. on your thread!)!!! Karen
You are right of course! But I do think this whole sad experience has helped me to grow & been a good learning experience for me. I have learned about myself more & hopefully how to be a better person, more empathetic, less annoying hopefully. I do think it is good that I am becoming more independent, etc. I know that it's not good though to wallow in the blame or guilt, so am just trying to work on myself for today and the future and try not to blame myself so much (esp. on your thread!)!!! 
