Bring on the Rain

[SueS]

Hey Yoyo- Thanks for the get well wishes! Got your email and I'll respond soon!

Karen- I seem to hear a little bit of blaming going on in your post above. You say.....if I'd done this or if I hadn't pushed him to do that.... Don't you dare blame yourself for this. I won't allow you to on my thread!! AGAIN, no matter how bad things are, he still had no right to start an A while still married to you. I did the same thing. From time to time my thoughts of what I could have done better/differently pop up. In my case, H wasn't happy about not getting a promotion with the company he's at. I helped him look for a new job, but the whole time said....honey, you've been with this company for a year & 1/2 now, it's a stable company, you're good at what you do, there will be many, many more opportunities with them. Guess what! He stayed and that's where OW works. At first I kicked myself for not pushing him to leave. After time I realized that the A would have continued not matter which way I'd gone. Although my H might not admit it, things WERE getting better with us. We spent more time together, we had more fun, our sex life was better....everything he wanted from me, he was getting and it was getting better. He STILL chose to have the A. I think that he actually saw things improving with us and put the brakes on his feelings for me because all along he planned for this to be his Exit Affair. I'm just saying that even if you would have done things differently, there's no telling what the outcome would have been. You're a good woman and you don't deserve this. Even he must see this if he's commenting on your changes!

SueS