Affair is over and WW is responding

[Hope4us]

Thanks Karen. You probably won't like what my counselor's plan is then.

I'm going to be the most thoughtful, considerate person I can be during the beginning of the separation, but if she doesn't come around within the first month of the separation, I'm going to write her a letter telling her it pains me too much to continue seeing her and then cut off all contact. Nada, zip, zilch. Let her REALLY miss me.

That does two things. Removes me from the pain of seeing her and helps me get on with my life. Cause one of two things will happen. She'll wake up and come back or move on to the next OM when this one falls apart. And if I had to witness her moving on to another OM all the love I have left for her would go out the window, so if I'm not exposed to what she's doing I'll still have that love left for her if/when she wants to reconcile.

I know it's not the DB way (at least I don't think), but for my own sanity, that has to be the way it is (at least for me).