Karen- Why isn't your H happy now that he's single? Maybe because he's seeing that it wasn't you & the kids that made him unhappy....it's not the OW & new relationship that makes him happy. He's seeing that HE has an issue. It's not others, it's himself.
I feel bad for the children involved in my sitch. OW has 4. I forsee my H trying to convince OW to leave the kids with their dad. I truly do. He tells OW that he KNOWS that with her come her kids. And as much as he might be able to see them as someone else's responsibility and not his......he'll still have them in his life. I DO NOT see this man as being able to just flip a switch the day they move in together and put aside his own needs for OW and her 4 kids. I'll have a heart attack if that actually happens. I can almost bet everything on the fact that it won't happen, he won't change.
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I'm also sorry to hear you are sick! Hope you feel better soon!!!
I do agree with what you are saying about my H. I have just realized recently that one of the things that I do wrong in my marriage was when we were having marriage problems last year, I knew my H was stressed out at work and prob. unhappy as he was working many hours, etc. and I would harass him about trying to get another job thinking that would fix all our problems. Instead I see now I should have focused on my own life and problems rather than his, and worked on my depression and that would have made him happier, maybe allowed him to see more that he was unhappy in his job, etc. Instead of trying to change him I should have just worked on changing myself! I don't think my H has learned that yet, still blames others for his problems. I hope maybe this separation will help him to grow and look at himself as well (as I am looking at myself).
I don't think your H will flip a switch and change, so I bet you his relationship with OW will be one of the shortest on record if your H tries to take on that responsibility. But I guess he won't realize that until he does it!!! Karen
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