Worried I found DB too late #2

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At least ringing the doorbell didn't bother me, I just expected something to shift after ML and little things did, but nothing big.

He came by this morning to see the kids before school. We talked about a few things, slightly R, but not really. I asked him if his therapist (he had a session yesterday or the day before) had any good suggestions that might work for me and he said no. He was talking about his sessions being private, his own time, to which I validated and encouraged him on it, but if there were any skills he thought would be good for me that I was willing to hear his suggestions. Also asked him if he was thinking about MC for us at all and he also said no. I asked if he was categorically off of the MC idea since it made things worse before or if it just wasn't the right time and he said he doesn't like the idea of MC. Again, I validated because MC wasn't good for us before. Then I asked him if he thought maybe Retro would be good for us and he said that's more feasible, but not right now. I completely validated and agreed with that and mentioned that there was one in our area in July. Far enough away not to be scary, but I did want to put that out there because at some point I'm going to need to do something for me. He said that was something to think about, a maybe. Not a dismissive maybe. I think that in a few weeks I'm going to bring up putting a deposit down for it. I ended the conversation with that I'm not trying to force anything, but rather just communicate things because we need to work on our communication and sharing feelings. I reiterated that I wasn't doing anything but share, that's it.

We hugged and kissed goodbye and I got a pretty good vibe considering my H is confrontation-phobic. At some point this morning I shared the "silent-but-deadly" theory and he laughed.