I asked him what my chances were of recovering our marriage and he replied that would probably depend on how I handled myself through this separation. If I do it with love and kindness, when it falls apart with OM (and he guaranteed me it would) that if remembered how I handled the separation and offered her a path home that she would probably come.
So I guess I don't get to tell her what I think. I need to write this letter in a way that shows her I know we can be great in the future while at the same time letting her know that I respect her if she feels she needs to go. Man, that's going to be hard.
Sound like you have a good C to me!!! I like what he is saying. I read an article here on DB in the list of articles page (on the home page) where the husband is talking about how he basically was a friend to his wife during separation and eventually when the OM and WW broke up, they reconciled, and he says how he thinks being friends when separated is really important. I am trying to follow his advice!!!
My H tries to pick fights with me sometimes I think to help alleviate his guilt & help justify his affair, but I try to be as friendly as I can so it is like trying to pick a fight with a little puppy or something!!! And no matter what happens I think it is good to be friends since we have 2 kids together also. Plus, I just don't want to be the bitter and vindictive type (my friends tell me I am supposed to be) b/c I think that will hurt me and my kids the most! Karen
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