Mixed Signals - version ? who's counting

[cat03]

hey cat, I totally hear you. Sadly, we'll be dealing with that kind of crap for quite a few years (kids' stuff S isnt' taking care of) Sometimes I have to turn a blind eye or try to ignore when I come home to a wrecked place (H can't bring kids to his place yet, so on his days watches kids at home), d5 dirty, knowing she didnt' eat lunch 'til 2pm, s9 not doing his homework, etc etc.

Yet there's no recognition for what I was doing, only focus is on what I wasn't doing or what I was doing wrong.

Catfan, as I spend most of time making 4nowH happy, takign care of all the unpleasant details (homework, cleaning, laundry, bills, home/car upkeep) H would just lay on his arse planning the next outing with ow and then he accuses ME of not letting him be an individual?? that I was too "rough" for his taste? He will not, NOT ever admit all the good things I brought into the M, he chose to pick the worse of my old traits and cook up a very unflattering pict of me.

I've given up expecting validation from such a empty person, it's like extracting water from a rock. You and God know you are doing your darnest Catfan, she has her colored glasses on and still calling the sky green, let her craziness be.

Anger isn't bad, let it run as you say, this sitch isn't fair and it is normal to feel that way. Eventually that goodness God put in you will lead you to forgiveness. We have to go through all these "levels" in this trial by fire, skipping one isn't healthy, so allowing yourself to be angry must happen. Prayers your way)))))))