I agree with the husband of your ex-coworker. Just from the tiny glimpse I get of you on these threads, I imagine you have the most delightful way about you. You deserve so much better.
Is your family overseas? Are you here all by yourself, with the exception of your children and H's family?
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence