Doing, As someone who is still with their WAS after an A, I can relate to everything you said. My H's A has been over for a few months but I never got the "I'm so sorry", etc. either. Is that just a fairy tale ending we expect from too many movies? Part of me thinks that, but another part of me thinks being able to say I'm sorry is important, no matter what you're apologizing for, you know?
I say give it -- and you -- some time, lots of time. Reconciliation is tough work. It won't happen over night. You need to heal. She needs to heal (and get over OM). The relationship needs to heal. You have to get past anger, mistrust, guilt, etc.
Don't stop the R talks (assuming you are talking with her). Communication is critical right now. Have you thought about or are you doing counseling?
