Hi again, I couldn't find the main "list" that I was looking for, but did copy some links to posts that I thought would be helpful for you now while you are waiting for your book to arrive. You may have already read some of these, but I know you want to be doing somethingand yet not do the wrong thing. So, hope this will be of some use. I've got to stop and get ready for work. Time sure goes by fast when you are on this board....lol. Hope you have a better day and I will try to check back with you later. Here are the links.....I just copied the first post b/c it had some do's and don'ts in it.
Things to do: 1. Be patient 2. Actively listen to what you W is saying 3. Avoid anger 4. Learn quickly to back off, shut up and walk away when you want to speak out 5. GAL & take care of yourself 6. Be strong and confident 7. Do a 180 8. Gain all the knowledge you can
Things to avoid: 1. Do not be desarate or needy 2. Do not talk about yourself when you speak to W 3. Do not believe any of what your hear and only 50% of what you see 4. Do not give up, no matter how dark it is or how bad you feel 5. Do not backslide from your hard earned work
How to act with WAW: 1. Be loving in return 2. Accept some invitations to spend time together, but not all 3. Do not ask questions about your future together 4. Be vague when ask questions about your changes 5. Continue to be positive and upbeat "Act As If" 6. Do not say "I love you" 7. Resist getting into R talk 8. Beat your spouse to the punch when it is time to leave or separate from each other at the end of an activity.
