Okay, I'm an oldtimer, but what's with the terminology? I used to say my WAH was in MLC......
And, Cinders, I do think you still have not detached, which will be like your H is nothing but your kids' dad. It will help and it's the right thing.
Not sure what advice is given these days, but we used to say to detach, treat your spouse like the UPS guy. This is to keep the emotions from going either way.
Give this to God... you still haven't, you know. Not that I don't understand, I was a VERY slow learner.
Detach!!!!
Take Care!
Actually, I'm really trying to think of him as the UPS guy.
I haven't said that I am detached, I know I'm not, it still hurts too much. I just don't want to be confronted with him at the moment. You know, like not having to see someone..but in my case it's hard because we have kids. Even so, I keep contact now to the bare minimum and it feels best that way.
Yes, detaching is the way to go, I'm not there yet....will get there, somehow, someday. Thanks for your input !
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
