FInally Snapped.

[missmyfriend]

Hi Cinders!

I am so sad what is happening. I agree that it is more challenging over in Europe as BFM mentioned since there is more acceptance of this kind of casual behavior from people.

I will say that to me that this seems like a strong spiritual attack on you and your family. Continue to be strong for you, your children and your entire family.

On a more secular observation, I would say that the OW is threatened by you and the relationship you have with your children. She probably is very cognizant of the ties between you and your H and sees you as a threat to her R with your H. I can imagine that she sees the children as what binds the two of you (your H and you) together so by acting close to the children, she thinks she can become a second mom to them.

Before that causes the fire to boil inside of you, understand that she can never replace you as the childrens' mom and will only create anger from the children if she oversteps too far. Your H may be supporting her attempts to win the children over for different reasons. He is probably not trying to get her to be a replacement for you as the childrens mom but is trying to get the children to embrace her as a way to receive approval for his choice.

While there are definite boundaries that should be respected, please do not allow their foolish schemes to disrupt your peace and your relationship with your children. Stay focused on being the woman God knows you are and on Him. This is what you and your children need the most.

I feel for you and what you are going through. You are in my thoughts and in my prayers. Do not let these attacks be successful. Fight back with the armor of God:

Ephesians 6:10-18

"Be strong in the Lord and in his mighty power. Put on the full armour of God so that you can take your stand against the devil's schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms. Therefore put on the full armour of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled round your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in place, and with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God."

Cinders remember what God says about spiritual attacks in,

1 Peter 5:8

"Be self-controlled and alert. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour."

The devil does exist and is mentioned in both the Old and New Testament numerous times, with warnings by God and Jesus never to assume that you are beyond his attacks. In fact, Jesus was approached by Satan in the desert and in the Garden, tempting Him to save Himself or to have His Father save Him. If Satan has the audacity to think he can attack Jesus, do you think that we are out of his grasp.

You are one of the strongest people I know Cinders and I know where your strength comes from. Remember to let Him help you at this point and do not try and take back control from Him at this critical point.

Hugs,
mmf