What you can do to be happy with you.. have you achieved everything you'd like to where your profession is concerned? Your health (like healthy eating and regular exercise), have you taken up some new hobbies? Have you gone out of your way to make new friends? (Because when you continue to just do the things you always did with your SO.. even if you're happy doing them.. I find that in the back of your mind there is always the thought that "this is something we used to do together".. which means that although you're happy.. it's not an opportunity to be completely happy... KWIM (know what I mean?)). I'm also curious to know if all of your friends are in relationships? Most of mine are.. and I find that tough. It's getting easier with time.. but I'm looking to try to make new friends with people who are separated or divorced. I don't want the negative talk that might come with that.. but it will be refreshing to not here about my husband did this, my husband did that.. and the "we" word.. .
It's all so personal.. "I" truly don't know what you can do to make yourself happy.. That should be all of our goals. If our SO never came back.. what steps do we need to take to lead a full and happy life for ourselves?
I am in a different situation then you (as I have contact with my WA due to having a child).. and even I have a hard time with being happy with just me.. Thankfully I can get lost in my little girl and most of the time.. she really can remind me that I have so much to be grateful for.. which then allows me to remember the great things about me.. and that makes me happy.. I have some really good friends, which I've read in your posts that you do too, and in reflecting on how great your friends are you should internalize it that you draw great people to you.. therefore you are great.. seeing all of the fantastic things about you will hopefully help you to find your happy.
Believe me.. I totally understand the loss of your best friend (he was my best friend for nearly 9 years).. but for now I have a really good friend from work (former work.. quit my job last week) and I have everyone on this BB.. and it's not the same but it does help. Do you have a "someone" that you are able to confide in... kind of like a stand in best friend for you since the separation?
I wish I knew what the fix would be my friend.. I really do!
