I believe it's always the toughest to face the ones you love the most. The painful shame of disappointment is often too unbearable for the WAS, and they will often make up excuses to get out of such possible awkward situations. I am certain that this is how my H felt and continues to feel.
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PS: For me, it didn't matter at first that they didn't know,...
Same here. I said nothing to anyone about what happened (H's A) and actually never really wanted to. I had hoped that we could get through it on our own, but the truth was....I needed the emotional support from family. Keeping it all inside, trying to hold it all together on my own....Not good. I was suffocating myself.
So about a month after the bomb, I told everyone who mattered most. My parents, MIL, SIL, my sisters. It was such a HUGE relief, and it was the best decision I made up to that point because it was what I needed.
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
