Wow Gypsy. I am very sorry for your childhood. So very sorry. I work in the federal government and witness people (like the person who hurt you) get put away every single day. No child should feel any sort of pain/anguish growing up.
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From his perspective he was a martyr for sticking it out as long as he did
I hear rumblings of this has well. When his PA first started, he said we (me and him) had been unhappy for 6 months, then it turned to a year, and so on, waaaay back. He has been 'sticking it out' for years, like your H.
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a relationship where I was always walking on eggshells always feeling I never did anything right. And you know who did that to me? ME! Instead of GAL, I had LAG (Lost all gumption). Having 180's? No way, I flat-lined!
Yes!! And add to this: I tried to be perfect for everyone and ended up failing everyone, including myself and my H as well.
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It's comfortable when I hear his voice, and I feel a stirring of what family means when we talk of the kids
Yes, but it also makes me feel so very lonely too.
I realized lately that I have (and you!) so many happy moments in our days. We need to focus on those, learn from those, and continue to love, honor and cherish, not only our H's, but especially ourselves.
