MLC came to my house...

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Update...

He is hot and heavy with is OW and is in "love". Her H already has another girlfriend. (this is all through another source), She has 8 yr old twins and he sneaks in after they go to bed and out in morning. Yuck. He defends her. He thinks shes wonderful and even if he wasnt with her..he wouldnt want to be married to me...Honestly we were happy.

Ah, yes. The old, tried and true, "it has nothing to do with her," and "even if I had never met her I would still be leaving you," speeches. Lovely, aren't they?

Truth is, I don't know what the truth is. I think it's possible H would have had MLC even without OW throwing herself at him, but on the other hand, he was an honest, upright, moral guy who knew he was having some internal issues and might have found another way to deal with them had OW not seen her chance and jumped at it.

They work togther and again, she is his superior. Not good. I want his work to find out sooo bad as it would take the shine off. I know hes very nervous about this. His financial situation is a mess. He left 6 months ago today, doesnt want respsonsibility blah blah blah.

Be patient, be still. You can't manipulate the situation. And who knows what would happen if you did!? They might both lose their jobs and decide to run off to Timbuktu together. An exaggeration, yes, but moving further away from kids in order to get a job in a new town where no one knows them is a very real possibility. So.......Be patient, be still. If God means for it to be exposed in order to fulfill his plan, then it will be.

Never in a zillion years did I think my H would or even could do this to us. Im GALing and doing my DB. I'm sure my situation is no differnt than any others..I just feel so hopeless right now. So very hopeless. My friends are hopeless and think Im nuts. he is just a freaking mess and Im the only one that notices..ok his dad and sis too...yes I'm rambling..lol. He has vomited out the whole divorce thing however has done nothing..as the script goes..

Any words of encouragement for us...we are praying everyday for our H and father. He only has contact with my yougest daughter at this point. Im trying tobe strong and usually am..Just not so much now...

Words of hope? Could use some of those myself! But I've got plenty of words of commiseration!! I am also on the rollercoaster of confusion. I waver constantly between anger, sadness, patience, hopefulness, hopelessness, peace, despair, disgust, and love. You name it, I've felt it!!

I am getting a little tired of having to defend my decision to DB and wait to so many friends and family. Anyone else finding that?

Sandyof5,

I'm just so glad we have this place to come and vent. Oh, hey! My H finally agreed to at least one session of counseling this Thursday. Please say prayers for us, and come check out my thread if you get a chance.

Hang in there! {{hugs for Sandy}}