Well I'm glad I know how predictable the roller coaster can be. So here I am down after a big step forward, enter H. When we first separated, I told him I wanted him ringing the doorbell before entering because I needed some kind of boundaries in this weird separation we have going on. That lasted about two weeks and then once we got back on level ground I stopped caring about it and he never rang the doorbell. Guess who rang the doorbell tonight?
We all had dinner and we started in on trying to rip out the new wood floors. H looked off. I was in a very good mood and made myself to be consistently lighthearted. At one point I asked him if he was all good after our "behavior the other night," he said he was and asked me the same. I just said, "yep, all's good." Don't know whether bringing it up was good DBing or not, but we need to work on communication and I wanted to make sure he knew that I didn't expect everything to change because we ML. Later he said he head and stomach hurt and I asked if everything was OK, he just said he was stressed out and getting an ulcer. Regular old kiss goodbye and he was definitely anxious to get out the door. I'm sure part of it was because he looked tired, he didn't feel right and he probably wanted some alone time, too. He'll be back at 7am tomorrow.
It appears to me as if H is going through a growth period right now in terms of us. Hopefully it's a moving forward thing, but something is definitely changing. Now is the time for me to be extra careful not to backslide. No R talk. PMA. No expectations. GAL. I think I need to throw out a new 180, just have to think of what that could be.
Any ideas?
Last edited by cw68; 04/02/0803:51 AM.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09
