I think the major problem w/ my W is the fact she had to have a hysterectomy in May due to chronic pain from Endometriosis. She hasn't been the same since. She even said "they broke something when they went in there. I don't feel right." Since then, she's done the complete wardrobe change, lost a ton of weight, started wearing jewelry for the 1st time in our 12 year relationship and then had the affair. Now, it is the D papers and on to a new life. I'm convinced the hysterectomy threw her into an early MLC.
As for the home location, W is a 40 minute commute each way from our current house, so I'd have to sell to get us in an equidistant location from both our work places and settle D into school. Now, if by some grace of God, I'm awarded full or primary custody, then I'll decide where we live and where D goes to school, not W. However, a 50/50 split looks the most likely, so we'll have to be in the middle of our work areas.
I'd like to be able to buy her out and rent the place if we can't sell in this market. That is the main reason why I'm getting as many opinions on the property as I can so I'll be armed w/ the best information at my disposal to give to W and present a possible buyout.
What is it w/ unrealistic ideas about stashing and wasting thousands of dollars? Your H did the same thing as my W. It is purely nuts. Now she's going to spend a fortune having someone pour over the records I'll give them to find out there is no big secret after all. She'll be driving up her own costs of this divorce b/c she is not in a sane place and she's being driven by her OM who is about as stable and sturdy as a wet noodle (if you weren't familiar, while OM was married, he was having an EA w/ my W and a PA w/ one of his 22-year-old students. W knows about the 22-year-old and is back w/ him anyway. How stable is she?).
I'm tired of this game, but I've got to continue and move forward again tomorrow. I have my 1st meeting w/ the trainer tomorrow, so I'm jumpstarting my exercise routine again and it is about time. I'm down and sluggish now and need to get off the hump in a hurry. Tomorrow will be good for me.
