Well dang. Starting thread Number 6...I predict this will go beyond 10. Sheesh!
Today's lesson (from my DB coach Joann): Make her do some of the work.
My wife's emails have always been really businesslike and almost 'cold'. Today, we swapped about a dozen emails, I purposely kept my replies polite and short, like she often does, just to see if she would respond differently. Interestingly, hers became more wordy and friendly in tone. This is no BS, it amazed me as it was happening. Now, I know that this could just be a blip, but it seemed as if my backing off made her 'come to me', just a little.
I just got off the phone with W. She was very sweet, and at the end, she thanked me for the call. It was 100% small talk, and was really nice. I think that, for us, it's important to stay in touch - with small talk, no mention of R.
We are going out for dinner tomorrow after work, then to a wine event. More chance to just relax and hang out with her. Show her what a great guy I have become, and let her get the feeling that she can once again be safe and happy with me.
Wish me luck, team.
Me: 54 Her: 50 and sexy as hell M: 32yrs T: 34yrs Bomb: Sept 26-07 "lost our emotional connection" Bomb 2: Dec 25-07 she's "not feeling desire" She asked if she could come home Apr 26-08! Everything's GREAT!
