Does your H know you are standing? have you ever actually told him?
Why do you ask? Interesting that you asked. No, I have not explicitly said so, except during the first 2 weeks of S (before I found DB). AT that time I told him I would NOT accept divorce as a solution to our issues. Since then, I have done my utmost best to make him feel safe and comfortable being with me, and nurturing him by speaking his love language - physical touch and words of affirmation. Thi past Dec/Jan, he said he knew I was giving him space.. To me that means he thinks/knows that I am waiting for our M to be restored., waiting for him to bring up reconciliation. Do you think this isn't clear enough and that I should explicitly mention standing? It's interesting that this is the 2nd time in a week that someone has asked me a similar question. -PH
