This is tough...nice all the time, or beginning to detach from him/the situation. I wonder about this alot too. I think I often come off as cold if I am not pouring my heart out to my husband. I strive to be pleasant all the time... not ridiculously friendly or like I'm headlining a comedy club...but also not ignoring him unless he speaks to me and then answering him with calm one-liners. I think it's sort of a rhythm that you have to figure out for yourself. And it would certainly be easier to figure out if our spouses weren't acting so ridiculous alot of the time!!
Maybe people with more DBing experience will come along and give you more insight into this. Hope you have a good night!
