CL, I had a conversation with my C the other day. As I mentioned in my thread, I am trying to work on my anxiety issues. Anyway, I was telling her how/why I get so stressed. I was saying that when the house is a mess, it stresses me out... and that when too many things are going on (kids screaming, puppy crying, phone ringing... all at once)... I get easily overwhelmed.
She said that someone like me with anxiety is easily bothered by those external factors. She was saying that when the house is a mess and disorganized, it makes me feel disorganized internally. She is exactly right.
It sounds like your W has similar issues. Anyway, what she advised me (which may work for your W) is to do a few things... to have my H take on certain chores around the house (which I think you are already doing), and for me to let some stuff go. Not get stressed about the little things. Know that not everythign can get done.
I'm wondering if any of that can translate to your W. It does seem like she gets easily overwhelmed and stressed (leaving her job, not wanting a messy house, etc...).
In my case, by being more aware of my behavior and my thought processes, I am working through it. It helps to talk to my C about it.
Once again, it sounds like you're doing all the right things.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
