Well, Bill..one thing I also learned after many months of trying to figure this out..
This started well before the A, and well before I was even in the picture...I know this for a fact, as well as my issues were well before her.
Now, the ironic part is...I have made the changes for me, and while she notices them and said to me I have become the man she always wanted...SHE cant bring herself to be with me anymore..
So, I cant force myself on her...thats the bad part..the free will...NOW, what you can do, is something you have done but add to it.
If you have God in your life, you can pray for God to open your ex's eyes...but only she can accept his invitation. And, regardless of if she comes back or not, you should at least pray for your future and be happy for what you have, not for what you have lost.
My biggest problem was I couldnt accept the fact that letting go to God would produce that many results before...I knew He answered prayers, but couldnt understand why I still felt the way I did. Until I realized I can only control my emotions and such, no one else...then I can focus on me and GAL.
My STBXW on the other hand, never dealt with her issues, and justifies everything she does..it seems, with OM, she has gotten nothing more than a band-aid for the wound...but all band-aids fall off in time..
