I'm supportive of whatever you decide Neecy! I do wonder if you should wait a day or two (possible cooling off period) before you take any steps like this to make sure that is what you really want to do.
It is funny you say that Karen because I was thinking today that it is no wonder my H does not take me seriously because this is the 4th month in a row that something major happened and he is still here.
Jan 1 - bomb - drove around looking for ow house came home and H finally admitted to bing unfaithful with her. Set out boundaries, marriage counselling, no calling her(worked with her 44 hours a week), he closed his facebook account.
Feb 3 - catch him texting her, go to OW's house and confront her, H leaves and sleeps at his parents, let him come home the following night
March 3 - H admits she had contacted him on his day off - lay out boundaries regarding no contact - he says no - tell him it is this or nothing, call to get a lawyer consultation. H says he is leaving but never does.
April 1 - H again balks at boundaries, she is my friend I will talk to her. Want him to leave.
I believe I have been justified in everything I have done but we have gotten along throughout, I do know that I am just at that point in my cycle, I am thinking it makes me bolder, and then it fades.
Neecy, one could easily make the case that it has been YOU that has not followed thru. No wonder he doesn't take you seriously.
I think it's time. If you want to ask him to go with you to his parents', then fine, but do it RIGHT AS YOU'RE PLANNING TO GO OVER THERE -- don't give him any advance warning. All he will do is lie and spin and obfuscate, as others have pointed out.
You're doing SO much better, but it's time to follow thru with ACTIONS, honey. ACTIONS.
I do wonder if you should wait a day or two (possible cooling off period) before you take any steps like this to make sure that is what you really want to do.
