RTL, Just know you are doing the best you can in very difficult situation. Perhaps you could go to a mediator to settle things. It doesn't sound like your W can be trusted without a third party present. I don't know your whole sitch or what started this but, why does she think you forced her to move out? Was it because of the OM? how can she think you would be happy about her splitting up your family by having an affair? Just read your latest post, in my opinion this has to stop. I think your W is only thinking of herself and is not equipped to be a Mother. This should have been apparent, when she took a 4 year old out of her home and involved her with another man who is not her father. if I were you , I would take the attitude with both W and the L to get this over as fast as possible. Your W may be shocked , but I would be more concerned with minimizing the emotional damage to your D. It also may help your W to focus on the reality of the situation rather than concerning herself with the value of some wall unit or something. And if you spent $40,000 , it was spent during the marriage so the court will not really care unless you have it stashed away somewhere. The court basically cares that debt is paid, nobody goes on welfare and the kids are taken care of. Your W needs to grow up and stop throwing stones.
