Hey, thanks for the support and the thoughts. I know she's really steamed about me talking about her owing me money. She is in for a reality check very soon b/c she may end up owing me more and more money as this drags on.
Right now she is clinging to some crazy idea that I've "stolen" close to $40K from our joint accounts over the past 5 years or so. If I have, I'd love to have access to that cash so I can pay off my legal bills and credit cards.
I hate to say it as well, but I'm hoping the tests don't work out too well for her either. I'm also hoping she comes across as the selfish narcissist she's become as that won't be good for my D.
Ok, your comments about my D being in the middle of this bring up another story I haven't shared yet, but it really does concern me. I'm definitely going to run this by the parenting evaluator as I think it is pretty serious stuff. He may not, but I sure do.
Anyway, here is the background. Let's say OM's name is "Jim". "Jim's" office is in another hallway from my W's office. "Jim" is a former Army guy who has little Army men in his office. When "Jim" was sleeping w/ the 22-year-old student, she painted all his Army men pink.
"Dave" has an office right across the hall from my W. "Dave" and W have ZERO sexual chemistry, but they get along well. "Dave" has comic books all around his office and is NOTHING close to a former Army soldier.
Here is the story: D said to me last weekend that "Dave" came over the other night, that "Dave" lives in the same complex as they do, that "Dave" is over a lot and they also go to "Dave's" apartment at times. Now this concerned me a bit, but I didn't pry.
However, D later said "Daddy, guess what? "Dave" has Army men in his office." I was now stunned and asked, "Are they pink Army men?" D replied, "Pink and Purple."
So, I asked D, "Do you mean the Army men are in "Jim's" office, not "Dave's" office?"
D's answer is what is really troubling me. She said, "Jim" is "Dave", but I just call him "Dave."
Now I'm beginning to fear that W is involving D in covering up her affair w/ OM "Jim." I don't have to like D having an affair w/ OM "Jim", but if she is going to enlist my D in lying to cover it up, that is severely wrong in my book and I hope the parenting evaluator believes the same thing too.
I can't believe I haven't shared that one yet. It is a very troubling thing for me to think about how and what my W is doing to negatively impact my D.
I can only keep praying that I'll end up on the right side of the ledger when all is said and done and the damage to my D will be as minimal as possible.
