I'm not sure really what in the world my W is thinking. She's off her rocker to be sure.
Well, I'll address some of your questions in my update as I was definitely spot on in predicting the angry come back from W. I've got to put up her reply b/c it is just too much to paraphrase correctly:
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Let's get one thing clear. From the moment this divorce began it has been you who has been obsessed with splitting things equally -- fairly -- and exactly 50%. I have offered on numerous occasions to make this divorce amicable and with limited attorney involvement. You have repeatedly spurned those offers, going so far as to tell me that you are happy to use this as an opportunity to bankrupt me. DO NOT turn around now and put this on me. My statement on 50% in that e-mail is based on your obsession with it since Feb. 4. If you are NOW willing to simply divide the possessions of the house -- in a fashion in which we both agree, as I have been wanting to do from the beginning -- that is fine.
Ok? Whatever. After a rant about how by her calculations I've stolen about $40K from us that she can't account for, how I forced her to find a place on her own and denied my D books, toys, and movies, and how I've "changed my tune" about giving her copies of the legal documents, she ended w/ this:
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In summation, I am no longer subject to your wildly vacillating rages. I have offered repeatedly to proceed in a respectful fashion limiting the need for lawyers. You have repeatedly rejected my offers. If you now wish to accept my offer, I remain open to that...as long as you can be consistent and fair....P.S. If finances are up for discussion, then are you willing to talk about custody as well?
Ok, who is raging here? Who vacilates? Who has been on the even keel w/ offers? Who is she kidding about me "negotiating custody" w/ my D? If she wants to go 50/50, then we can talk, otherwise, there's nothing to discuss.
We are both educators, so we can't afford to have an appraiser, but she is the one who has been haggling me to death. I did reply by simply saying:
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I have been in favor of splitting things w/out the lawyers from the house. However, since you brought up the topic of compensation in your e-mail post script, I asked if you would like to have the items appraised if you think you are to be owed financial compensation for our splitting of the household possessions. If you feel we can split them up w/out haggling over financial compensation for one party or another, then I'm completely open to doing that. If not, I will need to get the items appraised prior to you having the movers come and take them on the 19th. Concerning the financial documents, according to my lawyer, I am obligated to give them the copies of our financial documents because they were ordered up by your attorney. I have spent $500 of my money to make duplicate copies for both of our attorneys. I told you I would get them to you as soon as I can and I am doing just that. The divorce requires them to go through our attorney's hands as we have been issued legally-bound, court approved requests for the information.
She responded much calmer to this one and said "I am glad to hear that you are willing to do this reasonably." Like I've been so incredibly unreasonable. I told her in a response I would need to have a written reply from her saying she will not be looking for financial compensation for these items in the future and let her know if she can do that for me, then the movers can come as she has them scheduled (but I will be in the house when they arrive).
She also sent me an e-mail from another realtor about selling the house and I replied cheerfully about the comps this realtor gave her. I'm going to call the realtor and set up another appointment and get her opinion on things as well.
It should be interesting to see how she reacts to my asking for her to sign off on these items w/out the possibility of future compensation. If she does, I'll keep the e-mail - like I do w/ all of them - but if not, then the L's will have to handle it, unfortunately.
As usual, I love the feedback and support and I'll keep you posted.
