You are both right - the focus is on me, not on her. I'm still having trouble not taking things too personally. I guess it is natural, but I also am hearing it will get better.
I am definitely going to fight for my financial situation and not give in to her easily. She's really ticked, but oh, well. I can't control that. However I can control being taken for a ride.
Kalni dear - I'm glad I have you out there thinking about me. Thanks for your love and support.