Well, me hearties! I don't have a lot to report. I never did have the big moment with my H. We are still together, good friends, do fun stuff together, but there isn't much in the way of an emotional connection, or any intimacy. I am going to try and work on that slowly, and see where it goes. I am going into the life coaching field (start courses in May), so maybe that will help me with my own personal goals. Who knows what the future holds, and I am not going to worry about that ... just live in the now. I have learned a lot about myself from reading the book, A New Earth. It has opened my eyes to a lot where my own actions are concerned, about my place in the world, and about the path down which I want to direct my steps. Not sure where it will lead me, but I am hoping I will walk it without fear, and with faith that things will work out the way they are meant to.
I have decided to back off the bb a bit, and not post too much, or log on everyday. I just don't feel I am of much help to anyone really, except as a cheerleader, because y'all are so amazingly strong, and committed to making the best of your lives. There are a few of you I would love to keep in touch with, i.e. Phoenix_spark (you and I have been on this bb about the same amount of time, and have seen each other through so much ... yours was the voice of reason in the beginning, when I wanted to boot my H out the house, and just run away from everything, and my mind was reeling from the pain of finding out about the OW. Thank you sooo much!), Cat, Aud, Wii, ACJ, and keep up with your stories. I will check up on ya on occasion, even if I don't say anything. Those I am in contact with via email, please keep in touch (if anyone else would like to email me, my address is on my profile).
Love y'all, and hope for the best outcomes to your individual sitches! Know that there is one in 6 billion who will think of you often, and send positive vibes your way.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
BM, I was going to do as you suggested and email you. I started to do this at work but then thought better of it. however now that I have tried it at home it tells me I have to be an administrator to send a private message. Will try again from work next time I'm in the office as it was quite happy to let me do it there!
Take care and thanks for all your support
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Let us know how that life coaching course goes, can always use new ideas. Oftentimes having a cheerleader is better than getting advice, thanks. Ronjon
Hi Ron ... will chat about life coaching from time to time, if anyone is interested. You sound like you are going from good to better, every time you post. That is so fantastic!
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
It's great to see you have some irons in the fire, Being Me. Keeping yourself focused on new adventures and growth is a wonderful way to work on your sitch too. Sometimes the less fixated we are on what is missing from our R's the better. Keep looking after you, Being Me. Keep us updated on the Life Coach adventure.
Just thought I would check in and see how the old DB crew is doing. Hopefully things are going well for you. Just standing my ground waiting for the next shoe to fall. I'm OK with which ever way it goes thanks to this site and the things that I learned here. For now I just continue to do what I have learned and let the cards fall where they might. That way I know I did my best and whatever outcome happens, it will have been her choice.
Yesterday was our 22nd anniversary. Wow! I cannot believe we actually made it thus far. We celebrated in the usual way ... dinner at our favourite restaurant, and exchange of gifts. He got me a new digital camera, and I got him one of those ear pieces for his cell phone so he can talk while driving, or walking. I think he liked it. At dinner we clinked our glasses, and he said, "here's to the next 22 years!" Well, we'll see, 'eh!
I am still wondering what classes to start with ... will put some thought into this as I finish up my last week at work. I have asked HR to put me on their casual list, so that I can work sometimes. I do want to go visit my D27 in Illinois before I get back into the studying thing, so that will probably be at the end of April.
So, that's muh story in a nutshell, and some of my plans in the near future.
Hope y'all are doing well, or having fun GAL'ing.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Sounds like some good progress being made, wish I was there. Or next anniversary is coming up too, I'd settle for W just being happy to be in the R. Of course a nice night out would be good too.
