If it were me....I would say to the wife that I hope the OM doesn't show up, because I wouldn't be able to control myself from shoving the cake down his throat. And if she threatens to not allow me at the B-day party of my daughter, I would inform the daughter that mommy would'nt let me come to the party because she wanted OM to be her new daddy!!! She wouldn't like the threat but would be forced to not have the OM attend. But thats just me!!!
