Hi DanceQueen - thanks. I have been in counseling for over a year. I have a pretty good therapist. I was going weekly for awhile, but now just go about once a month. My H will not go, however. He is under the impression that this will work out on its own. And I will have to say that he is more touchy-feely with me now than he has been in a long time. (I recently expressed to him how I unhappy I am with our current sitch) He did go to IC when I first discovered the A. He is opposed to going to MC - he really doesn't think it will help. My C has gotten to the point where she has said that she thinks because I'm not getting what I want in my M from my H, I should think about leaving.
Counseling has helped me tremendously and I am certainly not the person I was last year, let alone five years ago when H and I married. I have done a large amount of work on myself - from rebuilding my self-esteem to asserting myself in my M. All of that was damaged greatly. I am happy with who I am today and I am almost greatful for the events that have transpired to bring me to this point. Of course I would rather that I didn't have to go through all of that to get to this point, but it is what it is. And at this point, even without the sex, I'm a better person for it.
