MLC BS/2?

[Patrick325]

He's not coming...thank God. But I just got into it with wife on the phone at work. She is trying to dig into my time with the kids and I refused to let her. I made plans to take my kids to a theme park and she is pissed. I stayed calm but she gets so angry with me. She said"I can't believe I was married to you for 17 years!" That hurts bad...but I don't answer to it. She wants to control me and I won't let her...it gets her sooo angry. I have tried to do things she wants, like some work on our house, so we can sell it. Nothing seems to satisfy her. She constantly complains I do this or don't do that. Should I stop trying to satisfy her? I mean I am trying to be good to her but she's never happy. I told her two weeks ago she could use the season passes to take the kids to the theme park and she backed out and said she couldn't so i took a day off to take them and now she's mad at me...meanwhile she is going on a overnight trip with OM Wed. She was letting into me and I told her she was the one being selfish because she could do that trip for herself instead of using that day to do something with the kids.....that was probably not good DBing but my blood pressure was skyrocketing so that was nice compared to what I wanted to say.....uuuuggggghhhhh...how long is this going to go on?????!!!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

For as long as you can take it.
For as long as you can honestly say I did my damndest.

Hopefully your ability outlasts her MLC.

Stop trying to satisfy her.

What your doing so far doesn't seem to be working out for you.
What can you change to see if a new tactic works?

Talking with her seems to be going poorly, maybe stop?

Have you gotten or read Divorce Busting yet?

Oh yeah...
Of course she is going to get upset. You're taking the kids to a park and she is going away with OM. She isn't going to back out of trip with OM, but deep down she probably feels like a piece of crap for it, so you get to bear the brunt of it, since it can't be her fault. Sorry dude, welcome to MLC.

[Patrick325]

Yeah, Iread it but it's hard to stick to it...emotions get in the way. I don't want to stop talking to her but maybe I should. I have been being nice to her most of the time but I don't want my kids to suffer. Plus I want my time with my kids...she already backed out of switching our custody schedule...between that and dealing with finances we can't seem to get along...

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Well,

I can say that DBing worked for me. I can say it has worked for others. I can say that it allows for a chance.

So I'd suggest trying to stick to it.

[Patrick325]

I'm trying....so you think I should just minimize talking with her and stick to my guns on the time with the kids? I was going to tell her that she can't use the kids season passes since i paid for them....

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Minimize talking, bills and kids.

Don't be vindictive.

Don't use your kids as tools in this.

But stand your ground regarding your time with them.

[Patrick325]

will do...thanks again Jack

[InLikeFlynn]

What do your kids think of this guy??? Do they know that their mother is having a PA with this guy and he is a major factor in your family being broken up?? Or is this still a dirty little secret that stays that way until its too late??

[Jack_Three_Beans]

Does it involve your kids? Yes.
Do they need to know all of the details? No.
Do they know enough? Yes.

Do not involve your kids any further than they already are.

[Patrick325]

My wife has moved into his house across the street. My kids are living there 4 days a week....IT SUCKS!