I would tell him the truth. If you don't take time to enjoy yourselves together, you will likely end up as a divorce statistic. Because that is what happens. You are living the married-singles lifestyle with each of you living separate lives in the same house. It is a recipe for disaster and you know it. You need a night out together sometimes. If he doesn't want to do the dinner and Irish band, maybe there is something he would enjoy more. But doing things together is essential if he wants the marriage to continue.
You both are right. This is my point sara exactly what you said. We have to make time, its so important, I want to believe what saffie said, that it is just stress etc. but Its hard just not to think its me.
I won't mention it tonight, because Im still upset from what he said, I will try and mention something tomorrow.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
I understand where you're coming from. My W does the same thing, taking my suffering with stress and depression very personally, as if my lack of continual "bliss" and "happiness" are somehow her responsibility to control or a bad reflection on her.
Please don't let it go any further in your mind than that -- what my W now refuses to see is that even at my lowest, I never really stopped loving her at the same time. In fact, the very thought, conscious or unconscious, that my W was unhappy as a result of my state of mind only made me more depressed -- it's one thing for me to suffer, another entirely if it impacts my loved ones as well.
Undoubtedly there is now a lot of post-vacation stress adding to the situation. (What's my favorite saying? I need a vacation to get over my vacation.)
I really agree with what the others have said. Talking and communicating openly and honestly can only help.
My H is big on taking things out on me when he is stressed. he's always done that, of course its bothered me in the past, but the last year or two its been really getting to me and Im becoming resentful.
He just called to tell me he is on his way home, but that's about it.
We'll have to wait and see.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Things are going ok. I don't post much unless something serious happens, just day to day stuff. I got hurt the other day and took a bad fall,so ive been moving kinda slow the last couple of days.
H seems to be doing ok. Still a little stressed, but we've been ok. He took S5 fishing this morning before school which was great. They didn't get anything, but Im glad they were able to spend time together.
We are all just trying to get over being sick.. can't wait till warmer weather.
Yes that would be great to meet up. I will let you know exactly when, when it gets closer.
he got a call that it def. will be the first wk. in May... not looking forward to him going, but I know he has to.
Really tired today, must be this weather.
Hope all is well with you.. thanks for stopping by. I probably should be moving over to piecing, just don't want to jinx myself...
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Well I think I already jinxed myself..H and I just had a huge fight.. mostly over mis communication on his part. but he is famous with not saying what the heck he means. He got real nasty and im just well.. pissed.
Sometimes I think he can talk to me like he talks to the hired help.
I will stay away from him tonight. He will be home late, so I will make sure the kids are in bed and so am I before he gets home.
tal
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
