Christarn, read through your post, sorry to see what is going on with your sitch. I can say that it is a positive sign that H has not went forward with D papers and is still on the fence. I can also say being the LBS myself, it would be hard to just walk back into R without having trust issues. I was thinking about this today, sure we want our M to work out but then you look at what if my W calls me back and we start to reconcile, sure I would be happy but I would have some doubt that any little mistake that I made she would throw me to the curb. I think that is what happens to many of the LBS that disconnect and become unsure of what the future would hold for them in the M.
I do have a question for you, you state above that after 4 months the hate went away and the fog started to clear, what was your H doing the first 4 months of your seperation? Was he chasing you and trying to plead with you or did he already start to disconnect? I am now 4 months into my S, although I see times when I feel things can be worked out, I still have my doubts. Neither my W or I have filed, her answer to any questions I have on reconciling are "no or not right now". I know, I have to back off and since I found this site last week that is what I intend to do. Please give me your insite on this with what your H was doing when you started to see the light.
Good luck winning your husband back, I know it is a tough time.
