Thanks for the responses...It is hard because H has asked me about how the sex was with OM and as most of you know, because of the newness of it it was really good. It was different, and new. I am trying really hard to answer those types of questions in the most gentile way possible. And because he also had an A I try to put him back to where he was when he was having sex with OW. He is getting a bit tired of that because he says this is now and that was then. Which I do understand that point but I am really hoping that he will see that it was not the fact that it was good and the OM was good at it, but that it was different. No two poeple will ML the same way.
I do let him know what he is doing is great and working for me, but the other night H it just did not do it for me, not mind blowing, so he felt slighted. And that is what kind of started this whole discusion on sex with OM, and H feeling not up to par.
H has been doing everything right it seems like and I can do nothing right. I am the one that is not listening to him and not doing the little things for him. So I came right out and asked what he would like me to do for him, everything that he came up with was sexual or that would lead to sex. I asked him to come up with something other than that, that I can do for him. I don't think that he understands that completly either. He calls me at work and gives me a quick little e-mail now and then, and I think that I have gotten flowers more now that I have total in the past 15 years. I should be the one trying to make things up to him not the other way around, LOL.
