It sounds like you're on the right path, neecy. It's unfortunate that you have the "pull the trigger" but I don't see any way around it - you've got to follow through. This just may be what he needs.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence