I was hoping someone with more DBing experience could help you establish some goals. I wanted to bump your thread so others could see it.
CAN ANYONE HELP STILLBREATHING ESTABLISH SOME GOALS FOR COMMUNICATING AND INTERACTING WITH HER HUSBAND?
When our emotions are so raw, it's difficult to detach, but I try to practice "mindfulness" which is basically staying in the present. Acknowledging the pain, and allowing yourself to feel it, but not focusing on the past or future. It's difficult to explain, but it helps me when I'm feeling out of sorts with my emotions. Take a few breaths, center yourself and focus on the moment and it helps. I'm hoping some DBers who know what they're talking about can chime in with some words o' wisdom.
Take care, stillbreathing.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence