Have you played anything for her yet? Given what I've read here on MLC, I'm skeptical if you will get her to see the "error" of her ways. I wish you well, however. I certainly don't have any ideas for how to make a MLC person change their perspectives, so more power to you.
Take a look at my post to Purr--I'm curious what you and others think about the issue of finding love in midlife. I read a very good article, written by a woman, in the March issue of The Atlantic Monthly. I won't summarize it again, but I felt better after reading it. She believes it's harder for women to find love in midlife. Some of our WAW will want to be alone, and if that's how they want to live the rest of their days we can't stop them. However, it's more likely that there will come a day when she realizes she wants/needs somebody to share life's ups and downs with, and at that point it may be hard for her to find someone. There aren't that many available middle aged men, and many of the available ones want younger women. It's at that point that WAW might realize what a mistake they have made in abandoning us. I'm not saying you and I were perfect and that they ought to beg us to stay with them. Believe me, I've seen my faults and continue to learn about love, marriages, and women. However, I wanted to do this in the context of working with my W on our relationship. She has chosen to run away. Well, that's her choice and I truly do wish her happiness, however she defines that. If it's a new love she wants someday, however, she may find it but she may not.
Right now I suspect freedom seems sweet, but most people eventually want a partner. It's going to be tougher, on average, for women than men. I know it will be tough for me too, and I won't take anyone who comes down the path, but I do take some comfort in believing that men tend to have an easier time.
Tree, do you believe that? Ladies who are reading this--do you believe that middle aged men overall will have an easier time finding new love than middle aged women do? I'm talking about averages here--any one of us, male or female, could find our situations easier or harder than the "averages" suggest. I don't say any of this in arrogance. I'm simply trying to see and learn what life is about, to face my situation squarely.
