Yes, you are right and although I see that, it's not always easy to undo years of ingrained behavior, but god am I trying. RE: Retrouvaille weekends, I have heard of those and I've also gotten some information on the New Beginnings marriage workshops, but I haven't gone much further than that. I just got the Love Languages book and I am sure there will be some useful information there as well.
Ugh! Why does it all have to feel so hard some days? I try to focus on the good things in life, and there are many, but some days it would just seem easier to throw in the towel. I'm half-kidding, I would never give up, but I certainly never thought it would be this challenging. What I keep telling myself is that when we do get thru this - and I believe we will - neither of us will believe the strong bond we'll have. I want to have the marriage we both envision. I believe we can get there and I hope he still does too.
