I agree with you: A woman was designed to desire her H, but at the same token a man was designed to desire his w. I know, because I experience it every day! The ebooks cost $40. (Ok it includes both books but toghether they are less than 400 pages) DR costs only $18 for a hard copy. I still have to decide wether it was worth my money. At the moment I would pay anything if it could save my marraige. Anyway, I floated an idea from the ebook with my wife, and boy, was that a mistake! I'm such a bloody fool, I seem to be completely incapable of learning from previous mistakes. I just caused the temperature in our home to drop by another 20 degrees.
What gets me down completely is that I feel I should have a PHD in psycology to navigate this emotional minefield. I'm always beating myself up: If only I didn't do this, If only I hadn't said that, What if I found this website a year ago, why the hell can't I seem to do the right thing or say the right stuff to make my w stop hating me. I read "the 5 love languages" and tried to make her feel loved. It made things worse because now I was "smothering" her. Good heavens! NOW they tell me that if I want her back I should pretend that I don't care!
I am hurt and angry because she cheated on me, now she wants to D me because am am angry and shouts at her. It is like the drunk in the Little Prince: He drinks to forget that he is ashamed because he drinks. She wants to D me because am am angry because I am hurt because she wants a D.
Why does it have to be so complicated!
What the hell is wrong with me!!!
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