You are both right swl and ACJ, I did the explaining so as to be able to erase the ow email adres and phone number from D9's computer adresses and mobile phone. I couldn't do it without explaining.
I have said that they may have lots of fun with daddy and ow when they are there and that she is allowed to talk to me about ANYTHING even ow fun stuff, or bad stuff, anything. But that mommy does not want the calls or emails to the house. That's all.
Yes, I may have been very wrong. And yes, I am protecting myself more than them in this...but I cannot deal with the bulldozering that my H does. The pain is too great.
I'm sorry...for my kids, I'm sorry if I've put them in a rotten position, I still LOVE THEM TO DEATH !
And yes, I plan on discussing this stuff with H only in future.
BFM - thanks I'll be writing you soon.
Love Cinders xxx
"In the depths of my winter, I realized there is within me an invincible summer" Albert Camus
