Sara, About dialoguing being important as an effective means of communication. I think expressing your self and your thoughts are fine but you also need to be open to listening..to digesting what is being said by the other person... Dr LOVe
Dr, That is a key concept with the Retro dialog. You read what the spouse has written. Once for understanding then again for feelings (do I have that right?). Then you discuss with each other what you have written to make sure that each of you understand the feelings. It can be very effective.
Mo2C and I do a good job of understanding each others feelings. I really do think I understand what it is that she is missing emotionally. What I struggle with (as is she), is how to restore this. We are so close, but there is a very critical component that is just out of reach.
Last night when we were talking, I suggested (in jest), that I could perhaps hypnotize her to give her these feelings back.
